“Romantic love is all about attachment and emotional bonding. It is all about our wired-in need to have someone to depend on, a loved one who can offer reliable emotional connection and comfort. Love is not the icing on the cake of life. It is a basic primary need, like oxygen or water. Once we understand and accept this, we can more easily get to the heart of relationship problems.”
– Sue Johnson
Marriages do not fail because of financial problems, too much fighting, conflict or lack of sex. Research shows the primary reason your marriage is most likely to fail is because of a lack of positive emotional responsiveness and affection. The knowing smile has disappeared. Gone are the gentle touches or spontaneous hugs. We were created for connection. We were created to love. When our love connections are not secure, we hurt.
“A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don’t function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.” – Brené Brown
The goal of Emotion Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is to help couples repair, enhance, and continually grow the connection in their love relationship. No matter the stage of your relationship, married or not, EFT will teach you and your spouse how to connect emotionally to create the relationship of your dreams.
- Learn what drives distress and distance
- Understand the logic of emotions
- Identify, recognize, and stop that negative repetitive pattern
- Create safety so you can complete conversations
- Recover, repair, and forgive emotional injuries
- Enhance your sexual intimacy